By Dr. Maurizio Capezzuto - www.psicologodiroma.com -
The first responsibility of a person is to be the testimony of herself. The responsibility and respect towards ourselves and the people around us should be the basis on which we build all our relationships. The term individual comes from the Latin IN (non) and DIVIDUUS (divisible, separable). Individual therefore means: that it cannot be divided. The individual cannot be divided, neither as a single entity nor by the interpersonal context in which he lives. We could define an autonomous individual when he is able to treat others just as he would treat himself and in doing so he adopts an individual behavior, which is proper to him, free from external conditioning.
Developing this sense of differentiation with respect to the rules, models and established canons is fundamental for our psychophysical well-being.
This principle should accompany us in all relationships, especially in love relationships. A sentimental relationship where one is led to establish what is right from what is unjust, what is lawful from what is unlawful, what is moral from what is immoral, not only tends to deprive us of our freedom, but above all tramples on our dignity as human beings. No one really should determine which model we should identify with. Our psychological physiognomy should be the result of experiences born of our desires, of our choices, and not the result of coercive tendencies implemented by the people around us. As mentioned above, the recovery of our individuality is a long and burdensome commitment that we must carry through with our own strength. As the prof. Aldo Carotenuto: "not undertaking this journey towards the conquest of autonomy would mean having to pay a very high price, transforming ourselves into living beings who have no awareness of their own existence".